How do I interact with someone with a developmental disability?

It’s natural to feel uncertain about people who are different. But people with developmental disabilities want to enjoy meaningful relationships just like everyone else. In fact, one of the most common concerns expressed by people with all kinds of disabilities is that people ignore them. People don’t know what to say, or are afraid of saying something insensitive, so they don’t’ say anything at all—and in many ways that’s worse. If you’re not sure just what to say or do when you meet someone with a developmental disability, just treat them like anyone else. Beyond that, here are some tips:

• Acknowledge him – Don’t avoid him or pretend that he’s not there. If you’re not sure what to say, start with a simple "hello!"
  
  
• Look past the disability – We’re all different in some way; for some people, those differences are just more visible. Don’t focus on the person’s challenges, focus on the person. Learn his name, find out what his likes and interests are, where he’s been and where he’s going. Pretty soon, you’ll discover an individual as unique as you are.
  
  
• Use age appropriate language – Be careful not to "speak down" to people even if they have a developmental disability. Chances are they understand a lot more than you think they do. If the person you’re talking to looks like an adult, talk to him or her as you would to any adult.
  
• Ask questions – If you’re meeting a parent, it’s usually okay to ask a few questions about their son or daughter’s condition—but don’t stop there. Get to know the child as an individual. Ask what his favorite activity is, what he likes to eat, and what his accomplishments are. If you don’t get an answer from the child, look to the parents. They’re usually happy to tell you, and they’ll appreciate your interest.
  
  
• Don’t be a stranger – Now that you’ve met, consider yourself friends, and the next time you meet, you can check in to see how things are going. Don’t be put off if he doesn’t always remember you; what’s important is that you remember him.